Life’s changing

As I grow older and look back on my life I realise the enormous amounts of pressure I have and still do place on myself.

As much as I value the quality of always wanting to be my best, I realise now that I have never really enabled myself to achieve that. I have over worked, over thought and placed such harsh expectations on myself, which has only ever left me stressed.

I never gave my time to myself; instead investing it all into other people and things, in the moment thinking it was the right thing to do.

Looking back I realise that it was never beneficial for me to be that way, I have only dug myself a hole in which I have struggled to climb out of.

I’ve only ever seen the best in people, no matter how clearly they’ve shown me their worst.
I have laid my trust into others even if that meant breaking my own.
I have believed in people when they have given me every reason not to.
And in the end I’m the one, who has suffered every single time, dragging that suffering with me day by day.

I never looked after myself the way I thought I had been. I have always pushed myself without even a clear indication on what my end goal was.
I acted like I always had it together when in reality; I was a broken mess that not even I understood.
I had a tattoo to signify strength when in reality I was probably the weakest person I knew.
I ignored all the signals, all the signs and all the warnings that I was heading to rock bottom.

It had taken me a cold hard trip down there to understand what I had done to myself.
There was no blaming other people; it was I who created my own path.

It took me a lot of courage and determination to come back and be in touch with who I am again, something else I never gave myself any credit for because for me I only ever noticed the negative things.
I put in hard work to be where I am right now and I am positive that I will never allow myself to fall that low again. Instead I have learned from my past experiences and I recognise and appreciate the hard work I have put into myself in order to rebuild.
I know now that it is important every now and then to look back and put into perspective how far you have actually come.

The only way now is up. Its time to dust yourself off and get going on your new road.
A healthier and happier version of you.
One that you accept and care for unconditionally.

You are strengthening into the person you are meant to become, so understand your value, respect your feelings and listen to what your body is telling you.




As we grow up, our lives begin to complicate.
We finish school, we go to university, we travel, we get full time jobs and our schedules get busier.
As we go along with our busy lives we forget the importance and difference that each day can make.

Each day is a new opportunity for us to work towards our dreams and turn them into reality.
Each day we have the chance to set ourselves up and achieve big things.
There are 24 hours in every day, which means you have 24 hours to take steps towards your dreams and live life to the fullest.

We spend our lives working towards the goals we set ourselves up to achieve, however we don’t always remember that as important as it is to succeed, it is also important to enjoy everyday and keep searching for new ways to help us grow.

Don’t live in your same old patterns doing the same old things to keep you going.
Challenge yourself, do things that scare you, build your life up to be the best that it can be. Establish yourself to die with memories and not dreams.
You have been put on this planet for a reason, go out, explore and find it.

Take a look at yourself in the mirror.
Do you like what you see?
Are you really trying your best and giving your all?
Does the girl staring back at you really look happy?

Unless you answered yes to all of the above questions, right now is the time for you to start.
Create yourself a fresh slate; give yourself the best opportunity by clearing your mindset and making this the beginning.
Remember, it all starts and ends in your mind. Your head is what fuels your engine.
Pump only good vibes and leave behind whatever it is that is holding you back.

Say yes to adventure, jump head first into new experiences and allow yourself to live to the fullest.
Give yourself the water that’s going to help you grow and blossom into the beautiful person you have always been destined to become.

Become successful and rich, and I don’t mean in wealth. I mean rich in knowledge, rich with experiences, rich in love and rich with ambition.
Allow yourself to be open to new things and learn about the world and what it has to offer.

Your life will all piece together perfectly.
You are the captain of your own ship and you WILL arrive at your destination, meanwhile, just make sure you enjoy the sail and don’t let yourself sink.

Fresh Air

In life, usually the easiest thing to do is stick with what you know.
It doesn’t take much to stay within the walls you have built over time and just go with what is comfortable.

The days will pass and people will ask you, ‘what’s new?’ and the general response you will give them will usually be; ‘same old’.
These days turn into years until you realise that you are trapped in this continuous cycle and nothing ever really changes for you.

You’re still in that toxic relationship, you still have that negative friendship, you are still working that draining job, you’re still studying that boring course and you’re still taking those same old steps.
And year after year, you’re still feeling the exact same way…

As we enter 2018, why don’t you give yourself the opportunity to break out of your comfort zone?
Cut loose of all things holding you back.
Stand up for what you believe in.
Know who you are and where it is you are heading.
Give yourself a chance to grow.

Say goodbye to all things that no longer serve you.

If as you are getting older, everything around you is staying the same then are you are ever really living?

This year you deserve that fresh slate,
you deserve to indulge in happiness each day,
you deserve to go on new adventures,
you deserve to meet new people,
you deserve to achieve your goals,
you deserve to grow physically AND mentally

Allow yourself to experience all you deserve by breaking free of old habits.
Challenge yourself, find the courage and the strength to live up to your expectations.
You were not put on this earth to be walked all over.
You are here to live the greatest life you can establish, and that means diving into change, diving into knowledge and going head first into new experiences.

So instead of tip toeing around everyone else and basing your decisions around the thought of others, think about what it is you deserve and think about and develop the mindset that’s going to get you there.

Make this year a time where you are proud of yourself and your decisions and live each day with no regrets, saying yes to every opportunity that comes your way, without anyone holding you back.

Let this year be the year where you can finally take a breath and enjoy the fresh air.

What next?

Do you ever become so confused and invested in your thoughts that you just wish there was a pause button?

A button you could press to make everything stop for a moment, a day, a month or even a year just so you had time to collect your emotions and figure out what direction exactly you are heading in?

Do you ever wish you could just fast forward to the future so you can see how your life is going to turn out? So you know if all your hard work right now is going to pay off, or if your choices right now are just a bunch of mistakes?

Do you ever get so lost in life that all your dreams and ambitions become a blur and you have generally no idea if anything you are doing right now is what you want? You question every move and every decision you have ever made because you have hit a wall and you just don’t know…

This sense of unknowing, confusion, lack of direction can really throw people off. They can make you really question and lose touch of who you are as a person. They can make you forget how far it is you have really come and make you challenge your worth and your capabilities.

Hitting this wall can become a really damaging period of your life if you aren’t quick enough to recover and continue on with your journey.
During this time you will make mistakes, you will fall over countless amounts of times and do things that you usually wouldn’t do. Your judgement will be extremely clouded.

But the worst part of all, you probably won’t even care.

The wall will consume all of your emotional energy and leave you with an empty soul. And at the end of the day, once you are trapped in this phase, the only way up is through you.
You are the driver of your own life; you are responsible for picking yourself back up and finding your two feet again.
When this feeling bites away at you day after day after day, you will become fed up with the negativity and find it within yourself to go back to the things that you love and become in touch with your heart and your soul again.

Don’t lose sight of yourself because of a few wrong turns and mistakes in life, instead use these as lessons and motivation to bring you back to speed and continue creating a life and a soul that you can be proud of. So what are you going to do next?

Cutting Ties

Every day in each of our lives, we learn and grow.
Every day we change in some way, whether that be physically, mentally or spiritually.
As we grow, our wants and needs adapt and we are then forced into situations whereby we must confront the idea of ‘change’.


The people we surround ourselves with at this point in time wont always be around forever. There comes a point in our lives where we wake up and realise that some of these people we call our friends, partners and even sometimes family, aren’t always whats best for us in the long run.
At one point in time, we enjoyed this relationship. But when we realise we are no longer growing from this connection it becomes time to cut it loose.
This then becomes the hard part.


The idea of conflict, the idea of letting somebody down, the idea of confronting your issues…

when you are around something or someone negative for so long it becomes more so a habit or forced interaction rather than a positive aspect of your life. What I have learned is, if something is not bringing you joy and happiness, not pushing you to be the best you can be and not inspiring you to do better, then why are you wasting your time?
Whether this means quitting that draining job, cutting off that one sided friendship or blocking yourself out from that negative drama, it is a step you need to take.


Once you realise this and acknowledge where this feeling inside your body is coming from, gaining the courage to confront it becomes that little bit easier. Your mindset becomes stronger and you develop the picture in your head of how things SHOULD and WILL be. Once you uncover this bit of strength and begin to face your problem, you become the one with the power.
Although, you always had this power, you were just too nice to ever use it.

This power will drive you, it will motivate you and it will take you to where you need to be. Just maintain that strength to follow it through and trust your own abilities.


Life is too short to spend any moment unhappy, especially when you have control over it. In 10 years time are you going to look back and regret anything you are doing right now? Will you wish you had done something different? Would you give yourself any advice?


You have goals, you have dreams and you have ambition. Set yourself free from anything or anyone that holds you back from this. Follow your heart and aim for the stars. Negativity is something that will only ever bring you down, but you, you belong in the sky.
I promise you that breaking free from any bad energy you experience in your life, will be the greatest feeling you could ever give to yourself.
The scissors are in your hands.

Highs and Lows

It takes strength not to abandon yourself.
There are times when you feel so alone, so hurt, so angry, so disappointed or so frustrated that you just want to get up and run away forever.
You put yourself down to feel so low, like you’ll never pick back up…To the point where it seems as though there is no return.

In those times you’ll think about other people and how they deal with things. You’ll think about all the things you should have done or should have said, all the steps you should have taken, all the signs you should have seen.
And you’ll over analyse everything, as usual. You’ll begin to hate yourself for all those things you could have and ‘should have’ done.

Its as if you find pleasure in overthinking things and stressing out, you just cant seem to stop.
But at the end of the day, the clocks not turning back, so what’s left for you to do?

You’re going to find that strength and find that courage to back yourself up.
Embrace those decisions and own what you do.
Analyse the situation, but don’t lose sleep over it.
These wrong turns in life define who you become, they help you learn, they help you grow.
They make you the person you’re destined to be.
It’s your journey and its okay to get lost along the way, to not know which direction is right.
Just please do not lose sight of your purpose.
Let that drive you,
Let that motivate you,
Let that define you.

Don’t let your feelings of insecurity and confusion allow you to lose who you have become.
Don’t allow it to have the power to make you doubt yourself and all you have achieved.
Do not allow it to be the end of you.

Find the little things in life that remind you that its all going to be okay.
Read a book,
Go on an adventure,
See your friends,
Listen to music,
Anything you can do to just feel at ease even for five minutes.
Because those five minutes can have the power to change all. They can remind you how strong you are and how close you are to your goal. They can give you that extra push to get you over the finish line, to make you a happier version of yourself.
So during the times where life gets tough, go out of your way to find those things. A few moments of optimism in your life can save a lifetime of regrets.
Because when things get hard we sometimes take the ‘easier’ option and just quit, but not you, you can accomplish all, and success is all yours.

Let the low times in your life follow through higher than you’ve been before.
This is your life, it’s time to stop being so hard on yourself.

The true idea of ‘fate’

We all tend to depend a lot of our decisions and life choices around the idea of ‘fate.’

What we do not realise is that fate is no true measure of growth.

Fate is not a person. It does not have hands that can magically move things and influence them to happen. It does not have ears to listen to your every wish and it does not have a mouth to tell you where to go.

Fate is simply an idea, not an action.

We put things down to fate because we do not have enough trust in ourselves to follow through with what our hearts really want.
It’s like when you flip a coin, but your decision becomes clear as soon as that coin goes up in the air.
We already know what we really want; we are all just waiting for it to happen.
We allow our fears to control us instead of taking risks and putting ourselves out there.
Too many of us have faced rejection and are now too afraid to put our hearts back out there in fear of being hurt.

But tell me something, if we do not take control of our own lives how can we ever expect to be happy?
How can we expect to end up with everything we ever wanted?
How can we really achieve our full potential?

We cannot just sit back and expect everything to fall into place for us.
When we wait around for something to happen, we allow other things to come into the mix.
If you wait around for that boy, some other girl will come along and steal his heart.
If you’re waiting around for your dream job, some other person is currently being interviewed.
If you wait around for that perfect moment, a million others are currently passing by.

Why allow the idea of fate to control your idea of perfection?

Why not become your own idea of fate?
Take ownership of your life and your desires.
Figure out what you want and go for it.
Take risks, open up and be free to the idea of possibly being hurt.
You were born with the capacity to hurt as well as the capacity to heal and overcome pain. So what are you so afraid of?
Remember pain is growth.

Think of the plus side, you may just get everything you’ve ever wanted as a consequence of opening your heart.

Take a risk. Take a leap. Take a chance.
You are fate; make it happen.