The true idea of ‘fate’

We all tend to depend a lot of our decisions and life choices around the idea of ‘fate.’

What we do not realise is that fate is no true measure of growth.

Fate is not a person. It does not have hands that can magically move things and influence them to happen. It does not have ears to listen to your every wish and it does not have a mouth to tell you where to go.

Fate is simply an idea, not an action.

We put things down to fate because we do not have enough trust in ourselves to follow through with what our hearts really want.
It’s like when you flip a coin, but your decision becomes clear as soon as that coin goes up in the air.
We already know what we really want; we are all just waiting for it to happen.
We allow our fears to control us instead of taking risks and putting ourselves out there.
Too many of us have faced rejection and are now too afraid to put our hearts back out there in fear of being hurt.

But tell me something, if we do not take control of our own lives how can we ever expect to be happy?
How can we expect to end up with everything we ever wanted?
How can we really achieve our full potential?

We cannot just sit back and expect everything to fall into place for us.
When we wait around for something to happen, we allow other things to come into the mix.
If you wait around for that boy, some other girl will come along and steal his heart.
If you’re waiting around for your dream job, some other person is currently being interviewed.
If you wait around for that perfect moment, a million others are currently passing by.

Why allow the idea of fate to control your idea of perfection?

Why not become your own idea of fate?
Take ownership of your life and your desires.
Figure out what you want and go for it.
Take risks, open up and be free to the idea of possibly being hurt.
You were born with the capacity to hurt as well as the capacity to heal and overcome pain. So what are you so afraid of?
Remember pain is growth.

Think of the plus side, you may just get everything you’ve ever wanted as a consequence of opening your heart.

Take a risk. Take a leap. Take a chance.
You are fate; make it happen.



The winner

You turned your life into a game.
You gambled the best thing you ever had only to be left with nothing.
You didn’t win.
You didn’t come out on top.
And as for her, she didn’t win first prize either.
She pulled herself into a trap.
I guess in the end she got what she deserved…
She knew it all along, how twisted and manipulative you were.
I guess that’s where the game became even between us, I knew these things all along also, yet continued to live in this dark hole.

She laughs; she calls herself lucky, she claims to be ‘in love’.
She is none of those things.
Her laugh, it is fake.
Her luck, is misfortune in disguise.
She can only ever be in love with the idea of what ‘could be’.
Because I tell you, you can not change the devil.
You can not warm a heart that is ever so frozen.
You can not change a person forever.
Who they are is who they are, and they will do whatever it takes and say whatever it takes to get what they want.

She is blinded by the lies, the stories, the hope of ‘someday’. She can not see the truth, no matter how exposed to it she is.
Standing back from those shoes where I once stood, I see it all. Every word, every lie, every moment.
462 days of the same life crushing routine.
And only now I see it. Only once I allowed it to destroy me.

So as she smiles and sees herself as ‘above me’ because she ‘won’ the guy,
I laugh. As in the end, who is the true winner?
It’s the girl who got to escape, find her two feet again, rebuild her identity, change her life for the better, restore her health and get back in touch with her soul. Its me.

She may have the guy, but I have much more. I have my life back, my soul and my real happiness.

So I say thank you. Thank you for taking away the toxin in my life and allowing me to find my paradise. Thank you for showing me exactly what I don’t want or need in life, for allowing me to find my purpose.
Although after what you’ve done you do deserve this hurt and pain, you both deserve each other. But I hope you realise that what you have isn’t ‘forever’. A man like that is incapable of loving you the way you think he does.
So I tell you, don’t ever let another girl be the reason to break free. Listen to your inner voice, trust your instincts and become a winner. Never settle for less than you deserve.

I’m not saying its easy, I’m not saying its smooth.
I’m saying it’s worth it,
To walk away from something that serves you less than you are worthy of.
Know who you are, don’t let somebody define that for you, and live the life you dreamed of with people who genuinely respect and appreciate you.

Life is too short to waste on games and horrible people.

Every relationship has its ups and downs, but when you feel yourself facing more negatives than positives, maybe you need to reconsider your definition of happiness.

Step back from the situation and think of the transformation you can make. It’s going to be a long journey, but one in which you can look back and be proud of. Don’t ever allow your broken heart to be the end of you, put it back together and make it your new beginning. I believe in you.

The road less travelled

In life, we all have goals. We all have ambitions and visions as to what we want to do with ourselves. Each day we all work to achieve this to end up in our idea of ‘paradise’.

I too have goals, I know what I want in life and I know how I am going to achieve it. I understand that there are inevitable bumps in the road that I will come across and I understand that sometimes I may feel down, I may feel defeated; I may feel so uncontrollably lost.

But then I remind myself of a few things…


You don’t always have to like everything all the time.
You don’t always have to have a smile on your face.
You don’t always have to have your shit together.
You don’t always have to seem so emotionally strong.

It is completely okay, not to be okay sometimes.
Take a step back. Look at yourself in the mirror.
Look deeper than just the reflection staring back at you.
Look into your soul.
Who are you? What do you want in life?
The world is yours, so what difference do you want to make?
What are you going to let define you?
These are the real questions.


The answers cannot be found in a book, no matter how hard you study.
These answers cannot be told by asking somebody else, no matter how close you may be.
These answers lie solely in you and the experiences you open yourself up to.

It’s amazing how different the world may seem once you know these answers like the back of your hand.

Your eyes become clearer, your smile becomes wider, your mind becomes purer and your heart becomes deeper.
You have the ability to change the world, one day at a time. Everything you do, matters.


Although sometimes, its not about changing the world.
Sometimes it becomes more about changing somebodies world.
Making someone feel less alone. Bringing someone a connection that they have never felt before. Touching their life in a way they never imagined. Letting them know that someone out there in this big world understands them and can relate to them.
Sometimes that comfort is all somebody needs to keep them going.

You have no idea how much just a few words can change somebodies life forever.

The idea of ‘karma’ states that what goes around, comes around.
In order for you to have self-realisation, you must have found inspiration somewhere, so share that. Light up somebodies darkest hours, by sharing your sky full of stars.

All some people need is to be reassured that they DO matter. They ARE loved. And they ARE special.

Everybody has something to battle in life; we all have our issues and rocky roads.
We are all warriors in our own worlds and we are all tougher than anything that comes our way.
Sometimes when we hit the ground of our lowest low, and we all do from time to time, we just need to be reminded of our beautiful qualities and strength in life.


So if you’re watering your own garden, don’t be afraid to share the watering can. You never know if the person next to you is suffering a drought. And you never know how far that little bit of water can get a person.
Don’t underestimate the power of kindness. You have the ability to change someone’s life, and that is a reward greater than no other.
Take the road less travelled and spread positive energy throughout. Believe in yourself and the ability of others, you cannot dream without belief, and at the end of the day who are you without a dream?