We all need to realise that although certain things and people may bring us down or create negative energy in our lives, not every situation or encounter requires a reaction.
we don’t need to invest our time and effort into every little piece of nonsense. We do not need to have our emotions being drained each time we think of something that has happened in our lives or every time we unexpectedly run into someone who has done us wrong.
The end of a friendship or a relationship is just that, the end. Therefore we do not need to fear the existence of that person or let them alter our mindsets to think angry or sad thoughts. They no longer even need to cross our mind. They are a member of our past and a reason as to why we are so strong today.
We can get more satisfaction from things if we simply take a breath, and walk away. People should learn to move on with their lives without needing to continually come out ‘on top’. We don’t need to always fight and always have the last word; we do not always need to inflict pain and embarrassment upon other people. We can simply just leave it be. And I guarantee that no reaction at all will probably make the other person feel worse as they see you’ve moved on with your life and they no longer impact it.
This may sound easy, but may also be the hardest thing we could ever do. In that moment in time, your body may fill with anger. All the memories may come rushing back. Your heart sinks and revenge fills your mind. But at the end of the day, that is your past. Why would you allow yourself to fall back and destroy the progress you have made? Why would you risk your happiness in this moment just to make a few snarly comments and engage in an argument with someone who clearly doesn’t deserve your time? You may feel good for those 2 minutes, but you’ll feel even worse soon after.
Having the last say doesn’t make you any stronger. Personally I believe you are much stronger as a person if you don’t even give them the time of day, or satisfaction of knowing they still get to you.
They may have changed you, left you broken, inflicted pain upon you for a long time. They may have altered your feelings, thoughts and perceptions on the world. But that is a lesson. One in which you can take and move on from. An experience in which you have grown from. Sometimes these problems are necessary for us to regain our focus of what we want, need and what’s important to us in life.
The fear, our insecurities, our constant attention to the negatives is only going to bring us down. Why not rise up and find that confidence within us? Instead of making that person feel pain, make them feel regret for something they had and fucked up. That there is something that they will live with every day of their lives. To me, that’s more satisfaction than any petty argument.