Believe in the only thing that matters

The belief you have in yourself goes greater than anything else in this planet.
Close your eyes, what really matters to you? Where do you see your future heading?
Set your dreams, believe in them, have faith and work hard to achieve them.
No matter what obstacles get in your way, fight through them.
Be the best you can be.
Turn every ounce of pain into absolute power and show the world what a strong and independent person you are.
Turn your struggles into lessons and always come out on top.

Prove to everyone that you CAN achieve whatever you set your mind to.
Do whatever it takes.
Study hard and work hard, all while maintaining a social life.
Be the girl that people look at and say ‘How does she do it all?’
Better yet, do it all with a smile on your face no matter how hard it gets because at the end of the day, you know you’re going to make it.
Surround yourself with a solid friendship group that make and reflect who you are. Ones that you know will be right there cheering you on as you turn your head. However, never leave them behind because without this army, success will never mean a thing.

Don’t allow the past to ruin your confidence.
Look back, laugh and feel proud at how far you have come.
Maybe a few years ago you were the girl who couldn’t stand up and speak in front of the class, but now you’re the teacher. Now you’re happy enough to get up and share your ideas not only with the class, but the entire world.
Step by step we evolve each day. Every morning we are faced with new and exciting opportunities.
Use your strength each day to uncover these opportunities, take them head on and improve yourself.
Form an identity you will forever be proud of.
Be the positive influence in other people’s lives and make a difference.


Stay true to your word and have faith in your heart.
Follow what you believe to be right, not what others deem right for you.
Look at the stars each night and aim to shine brighter each day.
Look at the moon and aim to glow wider.
Look at the ocean and aim to be deeper.
Look at the trees and aim to stand taller.
Look at yourself and just simply believe.


The backbone

It’s crazy how the people closest to us seem to know us better than we know ourselves.
They notice the subtle changes in our lives, they know what makes us smile, what makes us laugh, they know what makes us uncomfortable, what makes us sad and what keeps us on edge.
They seem to see things coming from a mile away whilst we just sit back and take the bullet when we don’t want to listen to their advice.

They know what’s right for us and what’s wrong, and no matter how much they to try to interfere we always feel as though they don’t know what they are talking about. They say a situation is going to turn out a certain way, and funny enough, in time they end up being 100% right.

As young people we feel as though we know everything and we often don’t leave our minds open to other possibilities. (The negative ones)
We think all our friends are pure, all our boyfriends are perfect and see seem to think that everything is going to last forever.
This isn’t always reality, and I think that’s the hardest thing we ever realise in life.
As we grow older things change beyond our control, we just have to adapt and be strong-minded to avoid being taken advantage of. Turn our weaknesses into strengths and carry on with life whilst learning from our experiences.

Something we need to remember is that the people around us only want what’s best for us. They want to see us grow, they want to see us succeed and they want to see us smile. These people raise our standards and contribute to us becoming the best version of ourselves we could ever be. We need to be forever thankful for these people, without their beautiful hearts and souls there is no way we could stand tall each day.
It is easy for us to have our judgment clouded by people’s manipulative actions, especially when we love them. However if you’re lucky enough to have someone who has the strength to see through that and be willing to help guide you away, consider yourself lucky because best friends like that are hard to find and extremely rare in this day and age.

We need to learn to love ourselves and trust our instincts. If we have bad vibes about a person, follow through with them. If something doesn’t sit right with you, don’t let it sit at all. If your gut is telling you something, believe in yourself. Do not allow the actions of others to allow you to lose trust in yourself. Your body knows exactly what is right, so trust these signs and listen to the voices because deep down you will always know what is right.

As much as we need to learn from our experiences, we also need to learn from those around us. Whether this is our parents, our friends, our teachers, or our families, each person we meet carries with them knowledge ever so different from our own.
When someone cares enough to guide you towards a better path, trust your instincts, have faith in them and walk the path together as you, yourself evolve through this experience.
Appreciate these people and keep them close, don’t ever take them for granted. What you learn from these people are lessons that will follow you throughout your entire life and their impact can change who you become. These people you surround yourself with are the backbone to your development, so make sure you keep a strong one.

Always remember that you can’t receive all life has to offer on your own, no woman becomes great on her own. It’s the people who you surround yourself with that give life the spark which makes life all that more amazing.

The Reality

Having a good heart is hard.
It is too easy to be taken advantage of. You open up and allow your weaknesses to be attacked each and every time.
People will realise ever too quickly that you will always be there.
They understand that you will never be too ‘busy’ for them because in the click of a finger you would do anything you could to make them smile.
They know you’ll always make excuses for them no matter how wrong they may be.
They know that you’ll accept the apologies you never receive and will always carry on as if nothing bad had ever happened.
They know that no matter how bad they treat you, you will always come running back.
They see you as much too easy to be used when they need you and then to just be thrown away once they’re done.

Having a good heart also makes it harder to accept the love that you deserve, because in reality you don’t see much love for yourself as you indulge it all into other people.
You are so caring. You are so loving. You will give everything with no expectations at all. You will put a smile on someone else’s face even if it means removing it from your own. You give up so much of your time just to help the ones you care for.
And at the end of the day, these are all beautiful qualities. But unfortunately, in the society we all live in, a good heart is rare and very hard to be matched.
We settle for less than we deserve because our expectations are so low.
We excuse others behaviour because we always have hope and faith that it may someday change, no matter how many times we are let down.
We all dream of that prince, when majority of us settle for the frog.

The saddest part about people like this is that it takes so long for them to crack.
It takes a lot for these people to turn their backs on the ones they love and finally walk away.
It takes a lot of damage for them to lose faith in the things they throw their hearts into. The inner strength these people need to reach that point and turn their back in order to find what they deserve, is beyond measurable.
A heart doesn’t turn cold unless it is pushed to its limits. And believe me when I say this, if you break a heart like this and take this girl for granted, the sun will no longer shine within your soul as you have given away gold whilst searching for silver.

Being selfless is wonderful and compliments the type of person that you are. But it is a quality which requires a strong heart and mind to carry, as it is so often where these types of people are hurt and left broken for reasons beyond their control.
Being hurt is no reflection on you, it is a reflection on the person who has put you in this position.
It is therefore important in situations like these that we don’t lose ourselves in the sight of loving others. Because you are beautiful, you are unique and you are worth it. Do not let anybody change your soul. It is YOURS.
Heal your heart and find the true meaning of love.
Find yourself a love that will never let you down.
Find yourself a love that will prioritise you.
Find yourself a love that will look at you each day and make you know that you are the only one for them.
Find yourself the love we read about in books and see in the movies.
Find yourself the love that puts a smile on your face day in and day out, and one that is there to wipe the tears on a stormy day.
Find the love that you truly deserve.

It may all take time and it may all be a roller coaster, but at the end of the day, if along the way you are lucky enough to find someone with a heart as pure as yours, don’t fear it. Appreciate it and allow it into your life. Knock those walls down and follow your instincts.
Go out there and ‘Trust the guidance of the universe’ because everything you need to know is being revealed to you in the perfect SPACE-TIME SEQUENCE. You’ll always get what you truly deserve.

The Comeback

At some point in our lives we all hit rock bottom.
It may feel as though you’ve fallen too far down to ever get back up.
It may seem like no amount of strength in the world will ever bring you back.
You may feel so lost that every path seems blocked.
You may feel so alone that even being in a room filled with people couldn’t change that.
You may feel like you’re speaking but never being heard.
Maybe too many people have let you down.
Maybe you’re disappointed in yourself for ending up this way.
Maybe you’re so emotionally scarred and damaged that you think you can’t be fixed.

I’m here to remind you that whatever it is, no matter how low you feel, your journey is all about the comeback.
Bouncing back from hard times and coming back better than ever.
Leaving the past in the past and not allowing it to determine who you are today. No matter what awful things have happened, no matter what you have done or said, no matter how bad people have treated you, no matter what scars you have on your heart…
There is always a way to get back up and survive.

In this world, we are all fighters. Every single day we battle a battle that nobody knows anything about. We fight through the hard times so that we can enjoy the beautiful moments on the other side.
Life is going to be hard, there is no doubt. You will always have to deal with the unexpected, and you will be knocked down from time to time. But always remember that even soldiers get knocked down too… But they then have the passion and the determination to get back up, so why don’t you?

Once you have lived through a negative experience that has changed you, it may take some time for you to heal your mind, body and soul and be free from the dark memories. But girl, you can do it.
Don’t let someone or something destroy you. Pick up your pride, dignity, heart and strength and get back up.
Come back better than ever. Turn your negative into a positive and define yourself the way you should be seen; strong and beautiful.
Please do not hide away, allow your wonderful friends and family to help you become the best you can be.
Independence may be important to you; you may feel like you can do it all on your own, and maybe you can. Just don’t block out the people who love you most, remember, they want to see your happy and healthy comeback too.
You are never alone no matter how low you may feel. Find your strength, find your voice and begin your climb all the way to the top, your smile will shine much brighter from up there.